You have been through a lot with an abusive father. I agree it is time you stop giving to those that do not appreciate you. You have a loving wife and children and you have made a good life for you and your family. None of us needs toxic people in our life. I too got rid of all the toxic people in my life and it sure does make life more peaceful.
Aunt Fancy
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I realized I've been *hit on alot
by skeeter1 inabout a month ago, i realized that i didn't really care about my still-in jw family.
i just want to be left alone by them.
they caused me so much grief.
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pros and cons of anti depessants?
by Crazyguy inobviously i'm having ex cult issues, family still in and a wife that's all kokoo for cocopuffs as well as our marriage isn't good.
i would like to leave her, she has never been the kind of wife i wanted.
anyway the stress is getting to be to much, thinking about things all the time and its effecting my work as well as otherthings.
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Aunt Fancy
I would talk to your doctor about it. I was never on anti depressants until I became a JW. I then spent the next 30 years on a number of different ones. Once I woke up (2 years ago) I stopped taking them and I am doing fine. They can be of great help but they do have side effects. It all depends on your body and what you can tolerate. It also may take a few different ones to determine what your body needs. I would try to keep it as a short term solution. Also, you will not see a change for at least 2-3 weeks after taking them.
I am not sure what Dis Member took because with anti depressants you usually only take one a day and I never felt drugged or sleeping from them. What they took might be anxiety medicine which is different than the anti depressants and they do make you sleepy and sometimes feel like you are drugged. I would try to stay away from them if possible.
The other thing I would consider is seeing a therapist because they can be such a life saver and sometimes you don't need the meds with the help of one.
Hang in there, I hope things will get better for you. Sometimes you just have to find the courage to change your life and make it better.
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Hubby's tempted to go back
by jgnat intoday he kept bumping in to (or rather dodging and weaving from) fellow witnesses.
he's talking about returning but can't figure out a way to do it without enduring a fair amount of humiliation.
i did not panic.
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Aunt Fancy
Will you husband read COC? When my husband read it he made the decision right then to never go back. He has no guilt at all after reading that and doing more research.
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It's my 25th yr anniversary of freedom
by rebel8 inapproximately 25 yrs ago today, i left the borg forever.. .
thank you jwn/jwd for helping me heal by listening to me.
there are not many greater gifts than freedom..
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Aunt Fancy
Congratulations Rebel! It has only been two years for us. It is wonderful to be free!
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The Theocratic Life and Times of Theodore Jaracz - NEW
by Dogpatch inthe theocratic life and times of theodore jaracz .
by barbara anderson.
[we are doing a special focus on the dark side of brooklyn bethel for a couple of weeks over at freeminds.org].
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Aunt Fancy
Very interesting!
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Have you reconnected with ex-JW's after you have left the Borg?
by EdenOne inafter reading from another thread, i felt it was worth asking this question.. if you left the borg on your own, have you attempted to meet others whom you used to be connected with while you were "in", but who have also become ex-jw's before or after you have left the wts?
if that's the case, has it remained a friendship, or the connection grew cold?
just curious as to what keeps friendships "stick" [or not] once you no longer have the borg's doctrinal glue.. your experiences are welcome.. eden.
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Aunt Fancy
Yes we have. My husband's best friend faded more than 20 years ago and he was able to tell him what is really going on with the WTS, another one of his best friends was DF when he was 16 and we have reconnected and have been able to tell him all the lies of the WTS. My husbands ex business partner faded 20 years ago and we got him to read a number of books and he is so much happier. We have used this time to help them break free of any guilt they ever had of leaving.
It has been a great experience for my husband because he gained his best friends back and their relationships are even stronger now.
We also met up with some ex JW's we had never met for a Meet-up in Brooklyn and we had a great time with them. There were about 30 of us and I would love to meet up with them again.
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Praise For Witnesses On Welfare Who Full Time Pioneer!
by minimus inthe watchtower has always praised witnesses who are on welfare and decided to pioneer.
many in my congregation, including my mom, were given kudos, praise and assembly parts because they took advantage of jehovah's provision through the government....did you notice this, or was it obvious to me because i was raised in the inner city and many people recieved government help?.
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Aunt Fancy
This subject irritates me to no end. I did not grow up as a JW and my parents were both college educated and worked hard. My dad got a 4 year college degree in chemistry in three years, worked full time and had two children under the age of 2. There was a time when I went through a divorce that I could have qualified for something but it never even entered my mind to take from the government, instead I worked hard.
When I was studying, my husbands sister in law told me that she was going to quit work and go on welfare and pioneer. I about hit the roof when she told me that. I was so angry that she would even consider doing such a thing because I was brought up so differently and was taught to work hard not take hand outs. I realize that there are some situations where this is necessary but this was not the case. This was another thing added to all the others that should have kept me from coming in!!
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I'm sitting here listening to a JW try to recruit somebody
by Terry ini'm at starbucks .
just outside in the courtyard.. i'm trembling.
my hands are shaking.. wow!.
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Aunt Fancy
I really enjoyed this story and my take is he is having doubts or else he wouldn't have questioned you and come back the second time. A JW who is firm in their beliefs would not even listen to you. I think if he is willing to come back he will start reading outside sources because he has to get over the initial fear of looking at anything but WTS materials. I really love what you said to him about really living...
Keep us up to date because this is an interesting one.
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Did You Ever Get Screwed By A Jehovah's Witness?
by minimus inwitnesses are supposed to be the "most honest people in the world".
most jws i know of do not put business deals in writing.
they simply "trust their brother".
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Aunt Fancy
More than 35 years ago my husband and his ex partner sold a very small business to a brother and he didn't pay them everything for it. About a year ago he wrote to my husbands ex partner and apologized to him and told him he was making everything right. He sent him the money he owed owed us so finally after all of these years we received the money. The funny thing is both my husband and his ex partner no longer go to meetings but the guy never found out otherwise we may have never received our money. So I guess these is still hope that some may get their money back.
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My frist email letter from my JW Dad. So sad...
by suavojr ini am in my early 30s and woke up to ttatt in late 2012. my dad just turned 65 in june!
wow, i never saw that being possible.. .
he just got himself a computer and was able to get internet in a remote location where he is serving as an elder with my mom (where the need is great) i was happy to see how he was able to send me a few notes saying hi and i was able to share some pictures of my wife and family, etc.. .
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Aunt Fancy
That is really sad. How many times did we leave a DC or CA and someone said some of the same things? I remember heaing such crazy things but I would ignore most of it because I couldn't stand to hear the end is coming, the end is coming! Sounded like Chicken Little crying the sky is falling. Some times I can't even believe I use to fall for some of this stuff.
There is still hope your parents will see the truth. I was 56 and my husband was 58 when we woke up two years ago. We are living life to the fullest and enjoying our freedom. Our kids are so happy and they have told us we are like different people now.